The biggest mistake people make re Boundaries
Did anyone directly teach you about Boundaries? No? Me neither. Don’t you wish someone had?
Most of us fumble through, making mistakes over and over before we hopefully learn from them. Much of that can be avoided though, with a little bit of clarity.
I’ll be outlining a framework for thinking about Boundaries in this Wednesday’s webinar. It’ll be clearer then when you have the whole picture, but for those of you who can’t make it, here’s one of the biggest mistakes people make:
They confuse “I can’t take it anymore” with their Boundary. These are not the same thing! Your boundary is crossed much earlier.
We’ve become so good at delayed gratification. It seems like if we can just tolerate an uncomfortable situation a little longer, it might resolve without any drama.
Then the tension mounts. By the time we take action, it’s not calm and measured…but it could have been! We missed the opportunity. We could have handled it well, if we’d been more attuned to our boundaries and taken action sooner.
Now imagine this in a sexual situation: Do you want your kid waiting until they can’t take it anymore before they speak up?
What is your Boundary and what does it feel like? We’ll dive into that this Wednesday, May 23rd, at 9 am PST. Register here.
Join us then to ask your questions live. If you can’t make it, email your questions in ahead of time.
Some people will register so that they can join us live and have access to the recording for the replay period (1 week). That’s the $15 option.
Some folks won’t have the bandwidth for this right now and they’ll want to see the webinar in 6 months or a year. By then, it will be available for purchase in the Resource Center. That’s the $27 option.
Most people, I expect, will want this now, at the lowest price possible. They’ll opt to join our Facebook Parent’s Support Group. It’s a private membership group where you can ask questions and take advantage of a whole bunch of benefits, one of which is livestreamed webinars and extended access to those recordings (1 month). That’s the $1 option.
Our abilities to stay centered and kind are vastly improved by defending our boundaries early and effectively…which makes us safe for our kids to talk to.
Our teen’s ability to experiment safely depends on them feeling and defending their boundaries. Don’t you wish someone had taught you how to do that? Let’s make sure we give it to our kids!
In support of you,
P.S. If you missed the webinar on Talking with Kids about Porn, you can still see it! Join the Facebook Parent’s Support Group to take advantage of the extended replay period.