Reality Check: Here’s what kids face

How is back to school going?  My clients are definitely feeling the shift in routines, and I’ve been lining up parent-ed presentations.  It’s a fun mix of mom’s groups, private events in parent’s homes, big speaking events for schools, and lunch n’ learns at parent’s work places.

 

In preparation, I’ve been diving deep into the current statistics.  I want to paint an accurate picture, based on real surveys and studies, of what’s currently happening with our kids.

 

I’m working on getting this printed up as a lovely infographic, but for now, I’d like to share with you some that surprised me:

 

Teens and Sex

 

Porn

 

Sexual Assault/Sexual Abuse

  • 8% of boys and 20% of girls are victims of child sexual abuse in the USA and Canada. In Australia: 21.5% girls, 7.5% boys.  In Europe: 13.5% girls, 5.6% boys. (Global meta study, 2011)
  • Only 38% of child victims disclose the fact they have been sexually abused – so 3 out of 5 do not. (Journal of Child Sexual Abuse, 2007)
  • 30% of female rape victims were first raped between the ages of 11-17; 42% before age 18. (Center for Disease Control, USA, 2011)
  • 19% of undergraduate women experienced attempted sexual assault since entering college. (Center for Disease Control, USA, 2009)
  • Most female and male victims of rape, physical violence, and/or stalking by an intimate partner experienced some form of intimate partner violence for the first time before 25 years of age (69% of female victims; 53% of male victims).  (Center for Disease Control, USA, 2010)

 

Sexting and Social Media

  • 15% of cell-owning teens ages 12-17 say they have received sexually suggestive nude or nearly nude images of someone they know via text messaging on their cell phone, and 30% of 17 year olds have received a nude or nearly nude image on their phone. (Pew Research Center, 2009)
  • One in three youth feel more accepted on social media than they do in real life. 45% of youth would change their online behavior if they knew their parents were watching.  (McAffee Survey, 2009)

 

Self Harm

  • National hospital data show self-harm rates are highest for 15-19 year olds (Suicide Prevention Resource Center, USA, 2007)
  • The prevalence of having seriously considered attempting suicide was higher among female (23.4%) than male (12.2%) high-school students. The prevalence of having attempted suicide was higher among female (11.6%) than male (5.5%) high-school students.  (Centers for Disease Control and Prevention, USA, 2015)

 

Sexual Identity

  • Lesbian/Gay/Bi students in grades 9 and 12 were significantly more likely to have attempted suicide than their heterosexual peers. 52.4 percent of Lesbian/Bi females and 29.0 percent of Gay/Bi males had attempted suicide. The percentages of non-GLB females and males who had attempted suicide were 24.8 and 12.6 percent respectively. (Suicide Prevention Resource Center, USA, 2006)

 

 

If you have different (or better!) information, please send it my way!  I’ve tried hard to have accurate sources, as I loathe this whole “fake news” thing that’s been going on.

 

These statistics are a lot to take in, even for me.  I hope you’re galvanized to take action, whether it’s to have another conversation with your child or organize an event for your community.

 

If, however, you find this information overwhelming or paralyzing, it’s a sign that your needs and your child’s needs are not being met.  If you sense in your heart that your child is or will be one of these statistics, let’s get on the phone together and turn that around. Click here to schedule a FREE call with me.

 

In support of you,

 

Anya

 

P.S. The next Opening the Communication Group Program begins this November.  If you’re interested in ongoing support with parenting your child’s sexuality, where you learn key foundational skills with a community of like-minded parents, let’s chat and see if it’s a fit!

 

P.S.S. Interested in a presentation for your community?  Click here.

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Anya, thanks for doing all this research! Parents need the facts. I wish you success in your good work.

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I can´t wait to see you infographic!
I wish we had more info on sexting and sex images on social media. It is a big deal for our teens, and parents are many times surprised with the facts.
Thanx for all your hard work.

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I’ve sent these stats and a few more to a designer…we’ll see what I get back! I’ll definitely share the infographic with you and everyone else once it’s done. Thanks for your suggestions, Michel. I’ll keep an eye out for more on sexting and social media, especially from reputable sources. So many times I found a great “stat” that lots of people were quoting, but didn’t seem to be grounded in a real survey or study…please pass along any you find, and I’ll keep updating this list.

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