Category Archive for "Understanding Kid Culture"

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What drives teens to get more aggressive about sex

  By the time our kids are teens, they’ve learned what sex is and they’ve absorbed the myth that everyone is having sex, and having great sex, too.   Teens think of sex like they think of skateboarding: if my…

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How teens mess up with sex (and what you can do to prevent it)

Yesterday I was on the phone with a mom whose story just made my heart ache.   Her parents had not educated her about sex at all, so she learned about it from friends and school.  When she started having…

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Protecting their innocence

At my workshop last Saturday, a mother told me her son had asked about Prince’s song “Cream”.  Her answer at the time was that it’s like the cream you put in coffee.  She knew she’d dodged the question, and asked…

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Why I dressed sexy as a kid

This is a bit vulnerable to share, even more so than the blog I wrote on how I lost track of my boundaries.  I remember being in middle school and testing out my sexiness.  Some of the parents I work…

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Our biggest challenge

Sex in the media. Porn. Sexting. What do they all have in common?  Yes, sex, but really, what’s the deeper challenge?  These are harder to talk about than just describing where babies come from. Tell me if you agree:  I…

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Your teen is probably watching porn – now what is it doing to them?

To wrap up this series on puberty (if you missed them, here are my articles on the physical changes, the behavioral changes, and protecting against shame), it’s important to tell you about the effects of porn on the developing brain. …

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Remember “dying of embarrassment”?

To wrap up this mini series on puberty, I feel it is necessary to address shame.  (If you missed it, check out these posts on the physical changes and the behavioral changes during puberty.)  Adolescence is often a time of lost…

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Understand your child’s behavioral changes during puberty

Last time I wrote to you about the physical changes which occur during puberty, and now I’ll address the mental changes.   Much of the behavior parents chalk up to “hormones” is actually a result of how the brain is developing. …

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Questions from the Question Box

As part of the sex-ed unit I taught to 10th graders, there was a question box.  It was a small box by the door, with a slit cut in it, so that anonymous questions written on scraps of paper could…