Category Archive for "Strategy"

Parenting to Prevent Sexual Assault

I watched an amazing TED talk last night, Thordis Elva and Tom Stranger’s story of rape and reconciliation.   It’s breathtakingly bold for this rape survivor and her rapist share the stage, telling the story of their brief relationship as…

A simple strategy to improve communication with your kid

When your child is asking questions about sex and relationships, you have to carefully consider how to answer, but at least the conversation has started.  Communication is happening! What about when your child isn’t asking questions? It might be because…

Want to have real conversations with your teen?

Raising a teen is one of the most important jobs there is.  It’s also one of the hardest! I know you want to be having conversations about sex and relationships, and to do that, you’ll need a good foundation in…

Yes, you get to have this

Every time I wonder about it, and every time I decide, Yes, I get to have this, my life gets a little better. I’m sure someone out there has not erred too far on the side of austerity, but for…

Clearing the destructive cycles you don’t even know you’re caught in

There are gray areas which we know are tricky, and we just can’t explain them to our kids very well.  These have been coming up in my conversations with clients lately. The key to teasing these out is to think…

Planning for a tough conversation

Sometimes my clients want help with their own resistance around talking about sex with their kids.  Other times, they know a certain conversation has to happen and that it will be hard on their child.  Have you ever had to…

Protecting their innocence

At my workshop last Saturday, a mother told me her son had asked about Prince’s song “Cream”.  Her answer at the time was that it’s like the cream you put in coffee.  She knew she’d dodged the question, and asked…

“locker room talk” and sexual assault

Have your kids been following the election?  What have you said to them about Trump’s “locker room” talk?   Our culture has really confused people about what sexual assault is, even though it’s really a very simple concept.  How did…

Why I dressed sexy as a kid

I remember being in middle school and testing out my sexiness.  Did you?  Or is your child dressing sexy? Some of my clients never did this, and some don’t remember that time of their life very well, so let me…

Raising Good Men

My last article, Pleasure not Performance, got a lot of commentary, at least in my inbox.  I talked about what I’d say to my daughter, and one of the questions that came through was, “And what would you say to…