Category Archive for "Strategy"

Why I dressed sexy as a kid

This is a bit vulnerable to share, even more so than the blog I wrote on how I lost track of my boundaries.  I remember being in middle school and testing out my sexiness.  Some of the parents I work…

Raising Good Men

My last article, Pleasure not Performance, got a lot of commentary, at least in my inbox.  I talked about what I’d say to my daughter, and one of the questions that came through was, “And what would you say to…

Pleasure not performance

A really great question was asked during the Q&A portion of last Wednesday’s webinar, Talking To Preteens About Sex & Relationships, and I had to share it with you.  It’s a big one:   How do we teach our girls…

Parents, talk about the Stanford rape case with your kids

If the woman Brock Allen Turner raped had woken up alone, behind the dumpster, with her clothes beside her, chances are she would have gone home and never reported anything.   Chances are, he would have gotten away with it. …

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KALW added a special warning for my interview

  Today I was featured on Crosscurrents, a radio show local to the San Francisco Bay Area which airs on our local NPR station, KALW.  One of the program directors had seen a social media post about one of my…

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Our biggest challenge

Sex in the media. Porn. Sexting. What do they all have in common?  Yes, sex, but really, what’s the deeper challenge?  These are harder to talk about than just describing where babies come from. Tell me if you agree:  I…

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Soften the Sass and Model Healthy Boundaries

Ahhh adolescence.  A time when kids become less responsible (you’re not imagining it – research shows it’s true!) and start dishing out the attitude.  You’re desperate to guide them well, but the strategies you’ve come to rely on just don’t…

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How to build trust with your child

Recently I’ve been talking to a lot of parents, and the number one thing I hear is how they want comfortable, open communication with their kids.  Some parents feel like they’ve got it now, but worry things will change with…

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Your kids can’t wait for school to be out. What about you?

Are you looking forward to winter break?  You might be excited to be with your kids all day for 2 weeks, or maybe the thought is terrifying.  Are you ready for this? Hold on, you’re thinking, what has this got…

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Sex sells. How do you talk about sexy ads with your kids?

It’s everywhere.  Whether you’re watching TV, surfing the internet, reading a magazine, driving past billboards, or walking down the street, you’re likely to see sexy ads.  Women and men in very little clothing, sultry expressions, provocative text.  Your kids see…