Category Archive for "Strategy"

Protecting their innocence

At my workshop last Saturday, a mother told me her son had asked about Prince’s song “Cream”.  Her answer at the time was that it’s like the cream you put in coffee.  She knew she’d dodged the question, and asked…

“locker room talk” and sexual assault

Have your kids been following the election?  What have you said to them about Trump’s “locker room” talk?   Our culture has really confused people about what sexual assault is, even though it’s really a very simple concept.  How did…

Why I dressed sexy as a kid

This is a bit vulnerable to share, even more so than the blog I wrote on how I lost track of my boundaries.  I remember being in middle school and testing out my sexiness.  Some of the parents I work…

Raising Good Men

My last article, Pleasure not Performance, got a lot of commentary, at least in my inbox.  I talked about what I’d say to my daughter, and one of the questions that came through was, “And what would you say to…

Pleasure not performance

A really great question was asked during the Q&A portion of last Wednesday’s webinar, Talking To Preteens About Sex & Relationships, and I had to share it with you.  It’s a big one:   How do we teach our girls…

How I Learned To Have Healthy Boundaries

Boundaries are not taught well in our culture.  Most of us don’t talk about them with kids at all!  Think back – did your parents talk to you about feeling your boundaries?  About what to do if your boundaries were…

Parents, talk about the Stanford rape case with your kids

If the woman Brock Allen Turner raped had woken up alone, behind the dumpster, with her clothes beside her, chances are she would have gone home and never reported anything.   Chances are, he would have gotten away with it. …

Anya Manes - Talking About Sex - San Francisco

KALW added a special warning for my interview

  Today I was featured on Crosscurrents, a radio show local to the San Francisco Bay Area which airs on our local NPR station, KALW.  One of the program directors had seen a social media post about one of my…

Anya Manes - Talking About Sex - San Francisco

Our biggest challenge

Sex in the media. Porn. Sexting. What do they all have in common?  Yes, sex, but really, what’s the deeper challenge?  These are harder to talk about than just describing where babies come from. Tell me if you agree:  I…

Anya Manes - Talking About Sex - San Francisco

Soften the Sass and Model Healthy Boundaries

Ahhh adolescence.  A time when kids become less responsible (you’re not imagining it – research shows it’s true!) and start dishing out the attitude.  You’re desperate to guide them well, but the strategies you’ve come to rely on just don’t…