Category Archive for "Strategy"

Little Kids and Potty Talk

At the last workshop, a mom asked about what to do when her kids delighted in potty talk.  She and her husband had decided which words were appropriate and inappropriate, and asked their young children to use the potty words…

How to Sext-Proof Your Child

You know how you flirted when you were a kid?  Our kids do that, too.  The thing is, so much of their communication happens in cyberspace, and the line between flirting and sexting is very very thin.   This is…

Learning from Dr Nassar: preventing child sexual abuse

Did you know that I was a gymnast? Certainly not of the caliber of the girls Dr. Larry Nassar molested, but I identify with those girls, their muscle pains, their love of the sport, their collections of blue and red…

Feeling and defending Boundaries

You probably know that a lot of the work I do with clients is around teaching healthy boundaries.   That I’m fascinated with Boundaries in no way implies that I’m excellent with them!  Quite the opposite: because I’ve built the…

How I Learned To Have Healthy Boundaries

Boundaries are not taught well in our culture.  Most of us don’t talk about them with kids at all!  Think back – did your parents talk to you about feeling your boundaries?  About what to do if your boundaries were…

Navigating nudity

Let me share with you some nuggets from our discussion on nudity, privacy, and body boundaries in the group program. When is it ok (and not ok) for parents to be naked in front of their kids? What about kids…

Having those hard conversations

October is Let’s Talk Month, and there are so many ways conversations about sex and relationships can start.  Are you ready for any and all of these?   Sometimes your child drops a zinger of a conversation starter.  One of…

The ideal age for “the talk”

I went to Amy Lang’s presentation last night, and of course, she was awesome.  You’ve seen her this year and last year on The Talking To Kids About Sex Interview Series, and her talk last night on the basics of…

The #1 way to empower your child

Have you ever felt clueless?  Like you didn’t know what to do, what should happen, how you fit in to the situation?  It feels pretty powerless.   You and I both want our kids to feel more confident, more powerful,…

What do you do when you feel shame?

We all have coping strategies for when we feel bad, sometimes several.  But most people habitually turn to one of four common strategies: Attack the other person for letting this happen Attack themselves for letting this happen Hide from others…