Category Archive for "Strategy"

Bribes and Body Boundaries

Recently I was interviewed for the Raising Toddlers Courageously online conference, all about sexual abuse prevention and body boundaries and consent.  Besides talking about those, I mentioned incentivizing…specifically, how we’d used gummy bears to get our toddler into her car…

My 13 year old son Googled porn…

A mom posted to a private group, asking for suggestions.  She shared that her 13 year old son tried to Google porn on his phone.   There were a variety of responses from the other parents.  The assumption was that…

The Sex-ed Lab Practical

Did you have lab practicals in school?   It’s when your science teacher tests your skills, but not on paper.  You actually have to interact, do the thing, to show that you know how.  Most science activities are practice.  The…

Teach your teen that “good” is a sh!tty adjective

I’m guilty of this – are you?   My childhood was full of “good” girl, “good” student, “good” friend and “good” job.  Adulthood had “good” looking, “good” worker and “good” mother.  But this word “good” – what does it really…

Skill building the 3 step apology

Ever messed up?   I mess up constantly, not so much because I’m incompetent, but because I keep trying new things.  It gives me many opportunities to model how to apologize!   Some of us give a perfunctory “I’m sorry”…

Your adolescent daughter’s self-esteem

Adolescent self-esteem, can you relate to this? One of my clients noticed that her 13 year old daughter is overly anxious about whether she’s on good terms with her peers.  Her daughter asks often, both in person and over text,…

Little Kids and Potty Talk

At the last workshop, a mom asked about what to do when her kids delighted in potty talk.  She and her husband had decided which words were appropriate and inappropriate, and asked their young children to use the potty words…

How to Sext-Proof Your Child

You know how you flirted when you were a kid?  Our kids do that, too.  The thing is, so much of their communication happens in cyberspace, and the line between flirting and sexting is very very thin.   This is…

Learning from Dr Nassar: what you can do to prevent child sexual abuse

Did you know that I was a gymnast?  Certainly not of the caliber of the girls Dr. Larry Nassar molested, but I identify with those girls, their muscle pains, their love of the sport, their collections of blue and red…

Feeling and defending Boundaries

You probably know that a lot of the work I do with clients is around teaching healthy boundaries.   That I’m fascinated with Boundaries in no way implies that I’m excellent with them!  Quite the opposite: because I’ve built the…