Category Archive for "Strategy"

the Sleepover Question

Is this tricky for you?   Sleepovers.  Such a milestone!  I have nostalgic memories of sleeping over at my best friend’s house.  We got to eat Kraft mac n’ cheese for dinner!  At my house, processed foods were frowned upon. …

When your kid says they know it all

Is this your child?   Your child is going on a playdate to a friend’s house, and you want to review the rules of safe play, including the rules around private parts…and your child impatiently brushes you off.   Your…

What can and can’t be talked about

Have you made the rules clear? I find this is a step which many families skip.  It’s the invisible, unspoken piece which adds or detracts from our comfort with each other.  It’s the “culture” and “common sense” that we expect…

Bribes and Body Boundaries

Recently I was interviewed for the Raising Toddlers Courageously online conference, all about sexual abuse prevention and body boundaries and consent.  Besides talking about those, I mentioned incentivizing…specifically, how we’d used gummy bears to get our toddler into her car…

My 13 year old son Googled porn…

A mom posted to a private group, asking for suggestions.  She shared that her 13 year old son tried to Google porn on his phone.   There were a variety of responses from the other parents.  The assumption was that…

The Sex-ed Lab Practical

Did you have lab practicals in school?   It’s when your science teacher tests your skills, but not on paper.  You actually have to interact, do the thing, to show that you know how.  Most science activities are practice.  The…

Teach your teen that “good” is a sh!tty adjective

I’m guilty of this – are you?   My childhood was full of “good” girl, “good” student, “good” friend and “good” job.  Adulthood had “good” looking, “good” worker and “good” mother.  But this word “good” – what does it really…

Skill building the 3 step apology

Ever messed up?   I mess up constantly, not so much because I’m incompetent, but because I keep trying new things.  It gives me many opportunities to model how to apologize!   Some of us give a perfunctory “I’m sorry”…

Your adolescent daughter’s self-esteem

Adolescent self-esteem, can you relate to this? One of my clients noticed that her 13 year old daughter is overly anxious about whether she’s on good terms with her peers.  Her daughter asks often, both in person and over text,…

Little Kids and Potty Talk

At the last workshop, a mom asked about what to do when her kids delighted in potty talk.  She and her husband had decided which words were appropriate and inappropriate, and asked their young children to use the potty words…