Category Archive for "Safety Conversations"

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When and how to talk with your kids about porn

You knew it would happen eventually.  Your sweet innocent child has been exposed to porn, and is now asking you about it.  Or maybe they’re not – is that worse?  How can you possibly open the conversation?  What will you…

How to have “the talk”

Some parents don’t prepare in any way for having “the talk” with their kids.  They get surprised by a question, feel obligated to answer in that moment, and don’t have any resources to help their child understand what they’re saying. …

Is your child playing doctor?

Sexual curiosity is NORMAL. Playing doctor is normal You might know it’s normal, and yet… How do you handle it when your child engages in sexualized play? How do you know if it’s a sign of something more serious, like…

Parents, talk about the Stanford rape case with your kids

If the woman Brock Allen Turner raped had woken up alone, behind the dumpster, with her clothes beside her, chances are she would have gone home and never reported anything.   Chances are, he would have gotten away with it. …

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You’ve got to name it to tame it!

Welcome to 2016!  I’d love to hear your New Year’s resolutions, especially as they relate to your kids.  Allow me suggest one more: Teach your kids the words they need to talk about emotions and sex. Last week, I attended…

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What about sex-ed for special needs kids?

Just last week I gave a workshop at a private middle school which chose to dodge the sex ed bullet by not offering any at all.  The parents had such different views on what middle school sex-ed should look like…

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What to do if THEY’RE uncomfortable

  I’ve seen videos of kids covering their ears or running away.  Some of you have told me similar stories – that your child refuses to listen or flat out tells you not to talk to them about sex.  …

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Don’t make my grandmother’s mistake

I was ten years old, and I was staying at my maternal grandmother’s house.  My parents had separated the year before, and my father was coming to town. To get ready for his visit, my grandmother took me to her…

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Remember “dying of embarrassment”?

To wrap up this mini series on puberty, I feel it is necessary to address shame.  (If you missed it, check out these posts on the physical changes and the behavioral changes during puberty.)  Adolescence is often a time of lost…

Safety Conversation – Does your child know the safety rule?

I recently at an event at a local middle school, and got to talking to some parents afterwards.  One mother was concerned about how her 11 year old daughter was dressing.  I said, “First things first – have you had a safety…