Category Archive for "Safety Conversations"

Bribes and Body Boundaries

Recently I was interviewed for the Raising Toddlers Courageously online conference, all about sexual abuse prevention and body boundaries and consent.  Besides talking about those, I mentioned incentivizing…specifically, how we’d used gummy bears to get our toddler into her car…

The Sex-ed Lab Practical

Did you have lab practicals in school?   It’s when your science teacher tests your skills, but not on paper.  You actually have to interact, do the thing, to show that you know how.  Most science activities are practice.  The…

Your adolescent daughter’s self-esteem

Adolescent self-esteem, can you relate to this? One of my clients noticed that her 13 year old daughter is overly anxious about whether she’s on good terms with her peers.  Her daughter asks often, both in person and over text,…

How to Sext-Proof Your Child

You know how you flirted when you were a kid?  Our kids do that, too.  The thing is, so much of their communication happens in cyberspace, and the line between flirting and sexting is very very thin.   This is…

Learning from Dr Nassar: what you can do to prevent child sexual abuse

Did you know that I was a gymnast?  Certainly not of the caliber of the girls Dr. Larry Nassar molested, but I identify with those girls, their muscle pains, their love of the sport, their collections of blue and red…

How I Learned To Have Healthy Boundaries

Boundaries are not taught well in our culture.  Most of us don’t talk about them with kids at all!  Think back – did your parents talk to you about feeling your boundaries?  About what to do if your boundaries were…

Navigating nudity

The Opening the Communication group program launched last month, and already great questions are being raised! Let me share with you some nuggets from our discussion on nudity, privacy, and body boundaries. When is it ok (and not ok) for…

The ideal age for “the talk”

I went to Amy Lang’s presentation last night, and of course, she was awesome.  You’ve seen her this year and last year on The Talking To Kids About Sex Interview Series, and her talk last night on the basics of…

Your teen thinks porn is sex-ed

The horrifying truth is this: Most teens have been exposed to porn.  They can access it at will. They think it’s sex-ed.   Yes, they suspect porn is the real sex-ed, the stuff we’re not telling them.  That it’s the…

Anya Manes - Talking About Sex - San Francisco

Help your teen make a Good Sex Plan!

I know, I know!  You don’t want to think about your child having sex, but it’s going to happen someday, and wouldn’t it be great if it happened well? You can help your child avoid mistakes, heartache, and possibly disaster…