Category Archive for "Parent Resources"

20 minutes of action for change

On November 25th, International Day for the Elimination of Violence Against Women, we’re turning the deplorable phrase “20 minutes of action” from the Stanford rape case on its head by encouraging parents – especially dads – to take 20 minutes to…

Reality Check: Here’s what kids face

How is back to school going?  My clients are definitely feeling the shift in routines, and I’ve been lining up parent-ed presentations.  It’s a fun mix of mom’s groups, private events in parent’s homes, big speaking events for schools, and…

Your teen thinks porn is sex-ed

The horrifying truth is this: Most teens have been exposed to porn.  They can access it at will. They think it’s sex-ed.   Yes, they suspect porn is the real sex-ed, the stuff we’re not telling them.  That it’s the…

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When and how to talk with your kids about porn

You knew it would happen eventually.  Your sweet innocent child has been exposed to porn, and is now asking you about it.  Or maybe they’re not – is that worse?  How can you possibly open the conversation?  What will you…

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How did you learn not to talk about sex?

I bet no one told you directly that sex was a hush-hush topic.  It turns out that no one needs to.  We are so observant of other people that we notice what others do and don’t do, the inflection in…

Sex-ed of the future

Do you know what our kids are in for?   If you haven’t read Peggy Orenstein’s new book, Girls & Sex, or heard her speak, check out her TED talk.   The moment in her talk that hits me hard…

How to have “the talk”

Some parents don’t prepare in any way for having “the talk” with their kids.  They get surprised by a question, feel obligated to answer in that moment, and don’t have any resources to help their child understand what they’re saying. …

Parenting to Prevent Sexual Assault

I watched an amazing TED talk last night, Thordis Elva and Tom Stranger’s story of rape and reconciliation.   It’s breathtakingly bold for this rape survivor and her rapist share the stage, telling the story of their brief relationship as…

“locker room talk” and sexual assault

Have your kids been following the election?  What have you said to them about Trump’s “locker room” talk?   Our culture has really confused people about what sexual assault is, even though it’s really a very simple concept.  How did…

How I Learned To Have Healthy Boundaries

Boundaries are not taught well in our culture.  Most of us don’t talk about them with kids at all!  Think back – did your parents talk to you about feeling your boundaries?  About what to do if your boundaries were…