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How did you learn not to talk about sex?

I bet no one told you directly that sex was a hush-hush topic.  It turns out that no one needs to.  We are so observant of other people that we notice what others do and don’t do, the inflection in…

Sex-ed of the future

Do you know what our kids are in for?   If you haven’t read Peggy Orenstein’s new book, Girls & Sex, or heard her speak, check out her TED talk.   The moment in her talk that hits me hard…

How to have “the talk”

Some parents don’t prepare in any way for having “the talk” with their kids.  They get surprised by a question, feel obligated to answer in that moment, and don’t have any resources to help their child understand what they’re saying. …

Parenting to Prevent Sexual Assault

I watched an amazing TED talk last night, Thordis Elva and Tom Stranger’s story of rape and reconciliation.   It’s breathtakingly bold for this rape survivor and her rapist share the stage, telling the story of their brief relationship as…

“locker room talk” and sexual assault

Have your kids been following the election?  What have you said to them about Trump’s “locker room” talk?   Our culture has really confused people about what sexual assault is, even though it’s really a very simple concept.  How did…

How I Learned To Have Healthy Boundaries

Boundaries are not taught well in our culture.  Most of us don’t talk about them with kids at all!  Think back – did your parents talk to you about feeling your boundaries?  About what to do if your boundaries were…

Parents, talk about the Stanford rape case with your kids

If the woman Brock Allen Turner raped had woken up alone, behind the dumpster, with her clothes beside her, chances are she would have gone home and never reported anything.   Chances are, he would have gotten away with it. …

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Why I love cheerleaders

I coached the cheerleading squad at Dwight-Englewood School when I worked there as a science teacher.  The idea that I could be a science nerd and a cheerleader delighted me, and I was determined to demonstrate to my girls that geek…

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You’ve got to name it to tame it!

Welcome to 2016!  I’d love to hear your New Year’s resolutions, especially as they relate to your kids.  Allow me suggest one more: Teach your kids the words they need to talk about emotions and sex. Last week, I attended…

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What about sex-ed for special needs kids?

Hooray! AB 329, The California Healthy Youth Act, PASSED!   Before, California public schools were not required to teach sex-ed at all – legally, they could opt out.  No longer!  Now every California public middle school and high school must…