Parent Resources, Safety Conversations, & Understanding Kid Culture

Your teen thinks porn is sex-ed

The horrifying truth is this: Most teens have been exposed to porn.  They can access it at will. They think it’s sex-ed.   Yes, they suspect porn is the real sex-ed, the stuff we’re not telling them.  That it’s the...
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Anya Manes - Talking About Sex - San Francisco

Help your teen make a Good Sex Plan!

I know, I know!  You don’t want to think about your child having sex, but it’s going to happen someday, and wouldn’t it be great if it happened well? You can help your child avoid mistakes, heartache, and possibly disaster...
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#1 Tip for Talking with Kids about Sex

August 15, 2017
It’s been a challenging week.  We’re at the in law’s because Great Grandpa passed away (we had the official Celebration of Life on Monday), plus my two year old is teething with her back molars, and this was the time...
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When and how to talk with your kids about porn

You knew it would happen eventually.  Your sweet innocent child has been exposed to porn, and is now asking you about it.  Or maybe they’re not – is that worse?  How can you possibly open the conversation?  What will you...
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Inspiring change

Changing ourselves is hard.  Changing other people – really hard!  You probably can’t command it, but you can certainly guide and influence.  Whether we want change for ourselves or for our families, it’s going to take some patience as we...
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Talking with your kids about Trump’s trans ban

Wondering what to say?   Trump’s tweets came up today in our coaching call for the Opening the Communication group program.  There’s a lot to unpack, many angles to look at.   Let me zoom out and say this first...
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13 Reasons Why: How to do better than those parents

It’s a tough topic, teen suicide.  But real, very real.   I think I’ve shared before that in my last year teaching, one of the girls in my homeroom, a straight A perfectionistic type from a great family, attempted suicide...
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Setting sexual expectations

The Buddha taught that the source of all suffering is attachment, and in this case, I’m talking about attachment to how you expect things to be.  There’s two parts to this: being open to reality ourselves and setting realistic expectations...
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From good boundaries to GREAT boundaries

I wrote earlier about what to do when kids put up a big loud boundary, when they stonewall you, and what you can do to soften things up.  That will get you creating safety, so the wall can come down,...
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