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Skill building the 3 step apology

Ever messed up?   I mess up constantly, not so much because I’m incompetent, but because I keep trying new things.  It gives me many opportunities to model how to apologize!   Some of us give a perfunctory “I’m sorry”...
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Your adolescent daughter’s self-esteem

Adolescent self-esteem, can you relate to this? One of my clients noticed that her 13 year old daughter is overly anxious about whether she’s on good terms with her peers.  Her daughter asks often, both in person and over text,...
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Anatomy 101: Vulva Vs. Vagina

Ok, let’s get technical!   At my last workshop a mom asked me with honest humility what the difference is between the two V words.  The other moms laughed with appreciation.   One picked up a book she recognized from...
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Have a boy-girl in your life?

I grew up in Berkeley, CA, where we are wayyyy liberal and proud of it!  Gay, lesbian, or bi?  Not a problem.   I was so immersed in accepting others who did not define themselves as heterosexual that homophobia seemed...
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Little Kids and Potty Talk

At the last workshop, a mom asked about what to do when her kids delighted in potty talk.  She and her husband had decided which words were appropriate and inappropriate, and asked their young children to use the potty words...
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Here’s proof that your kids actually want limits re their phones

Yesterday I was wrote about media messages and helping my child have some defense against the armies of marketers and psychologists creating ad campaigns and social media.  (If you missed it, you can read more here.)   The dangers kids...
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You didn’t consent to your kids seeing this stuff!

We’re so careful to choose babysitters and schools and summer camps that provide a great environment for our kids, but the moment our kids get on a device, that curated environment is gone.  Heck, the moment I take my daughter...
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How to Sext-Proof Your Child

You know how you flirted when you were a kid?  Our kids do that, too.  The thing is, so much of their communication happens in cyberspace, and the line between flirting and sexting is very very thin.   This is...
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Learning from Dr Nassar: preventing child sexual abuse

Did you know that I was a gymnast? Certainly not of the caliber of the girls Dr. Larry Nassar molested, but I identify with those girls, their muscle pains, their love of the sport, their collections of blue and red...
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