Parent Resources, Safety Conversations, & Understanding Kid Culture

Anya Manes - Talking About Sex - San Francisco

How to have “the talk”

Some parents don’t prepare in any way for having “the talk” with their kids.  They get surprised by a question, feel obligated to answer in that moment, and don’t have any resources to help their child understand what they’re saying. ...
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Is your child playing doctor?

Sexual curiosity is NORMAL.   You might know it’s normal, and yet…   How do you handle it when your child engages in sexualized play?    How do you know if it’s a sign of something more serious, like abuse...
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Swear words and kids

Have you ever noticed how many of our swear words have to do with sex and private parts?   Most of us use swear words rarely, reserving them for moments when we really need to get someone’s attention.  Since it’s...
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Parenting to Prevent Sexual Assault

I watched an amazing TED talk last night, Thordis Elva and Tom Stranger’s story of rape and reconciliation.   It’s breathtakingly bold for this rape survivor and her rapist share the stage, telling the story of their brief relationship as...
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A simple strategy to improve communication with your kid

January 27, 2017
When you child is asking questions about sex and relationships, you have to carefully consider how to answer, but at least the conversation has started.   What about when your child isn’t asking questions?   There are lots of moments...
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Mother and Daughter Talking

Want to have real conversations with your teen?

Raising teens is one of the most important jobs there is.  It’s also one of the hardest! I know you want to be having conversations about sex and relationships, and to do that, you’ll need a good foundation in place....
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Yes, you get to have this

Every time I wonder about it, and every time I decide, Yes, I get to have this, my life gets a little better. I’m sure someone out there has not erred too far on the side of austerity, but for...
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Maintaining and Improving Sexual Health

A friend recently asked me, “Is anyone healthy?”  She meant through-and-through, totally 100% healthy.  It made me pause.  I couldn’t come up with more than one or two people. How is it that we spend so much time and energy...
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Clearing the destructive cycles you don’t even know you’re caught in

There are gray areas which we know are tricky, and we just can’t explain them to our kids very well.  These have been coming up in my conversations with clients lately. The key to teasing these out is to think...
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